She will find it hard to think of anything else but what is happening to her.
The victim will fight with her own mind and struggle to work out if she is being abused or is she truly the problem.
It is repetitive abuse that’s aimed at controlling, diminishing another persons well being in order to hurt, punish, harm or control them.
The silent abuser is able to switch himself off emotionally to the pain and suffering he is causing his victim and will deny he is the problem and he may tell himself or others that he is the victim.
Some justify this behaviour and kid themselves that it’s in some way an honourable stance to take.
They often acknowledge in their own minds that the victim is suffering but do nothing about it, walk away and simply ignore it.
The latter is a very dangerous form of mental abuse.
You stop being a victim when you become the abuser The abuser is capable of closing down all reasonable sense of emotions and turn into a cold heart very fast as he withdraws into his own world without any care for his victims distress .
The abuser will behave in society charming, calm, happy, he will be seen by others as a pillar of society, gentle natured, helpful, kind, caring and fool the outside world into thinking he is abused and his partner is the abuser. They will have their partner labelled a mental case whilst he plays the victim and saint and makes her the subject of of every ones rejection by labelling her with an unbalanced mind.